Most symptoms which include restlessness and fatigue, which cannot be explained by any physical ailment can be attributed to stress. Visit your physician to rule out any physical ailment including a thyroid or any other hormonal problem. If all these tests are normal, examine your lifestyle. Are you stressed or unhappy about work or are you dealing with any crisis on the home front or in a relationship?

Spend a short while analysing your recent lifestyle and habits. You are sure to be able to understand what is stressing you out. Simple lifestyle changes such as a healthy diet, mild exercise and a positive outlook towards life will go a long way in helping you beat stress.

Should you still feel the same seek professional help for psychological assessment and counselling.

Your physicians are probably right in suggesting that your headaches could be psychological. Very often when we are under severe psychological stress or when dealing with difficult issues we might get frequent headaches and body aches. If all your tests are indeed normal, visit a psychiatrist for an assessment and possible cause for your headache.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD is defined by repetitive and sometimes irrational thoughts which are usually accompanied with anxiety and sometimes panic. Symptoms may range from mild to severe and at sometimes accompanied by ritualistic actions. Thoughts are usually negative and involve issues of health, religion and work. Sometimes the thoughts may be extremely irrational and one feels helpless because one is unable to control or stop these thoughts. Any attempted control usually leads to severe anxiety. You definitely need to visit a psychiatrist and get assessed. However, all people who are particular about perfection need not be suffering from OCD. Sometimes the personality may define your actions. Usually treatment for OCD is in the form of medication for severe cases in addition to couselling & psychotherapy.

Cognitive behaviour therapy is the most effective therapy defined for obsessive thoughts along with Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP).

Your wife could be suffering from some form of post partum illness which is most common amongst people that recently delivered babies. The causes mediated by hormones and neuro transmitters which have a profound effect on the brain. The mildest form is post partum blues characterised by feelings of inadequacy, depression and anxiety which every woman experiences a few days after delivering the baby. More severe forms could include post partum depression and post partum psychosis. Kindly take your wife to a psychiatrist for an assessment. Treat this as an emergency as symptoms could escalate over time.

Your older child might be suffering from a hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) with or without a mild learning disability (Dislexia). However, both these disorders are rather over diagnosed and several normal and naughty children fall prey to it.

Kindly take both your children to a child psychologist or a psychiatrist and get a realistic assessment. If your older child indeed suffers from any of the above disorders they are completely treatable with or without medication.

Behaviour therapy and remedial learning are methods which ensure better scholastic performance and behaviour. In the meantime, kindly stop comparing your younger child to your older child. In the process, you are creating a psychological rift between both the children. Also analyse general family atmosphere and the school atmosphere that your children are exposed to. Sometimes children react to emotional conflicts with bad and attention seeking behaviour. A realistic assessment will put your fears to rest. Be sure to take parental guidance and couselling, both of which are invaluable in helping you deal with the children better.